You may be thinking, “Hey! National Sibling Day is not until April 10th and National Sister Day won’t be until August 2nd!”. But I have decided to show my rebellious side and celebrate my sisters whenever I feel like it! So there!
I have two sisters that are two and four years younger than me. Growing up, believe it or not, we got along great. All of us are different enough that we didn’t have the need to feel competitive with one another but we were similar enough to enjoy each others company.
Family vacations were not like what you see on TV. The only thing I remember fighting about is who had to sleep on the floor at the hotel. Usually it was Lindee (the middle one). As we got older and into our teenage years, we still LOVED getting away and going to our favorite places with just the five us. Only in the past two years have boys started coming into the mix. Luckily we like them….
I believe the biggest reason why we got along so well was because to our parents, not getting along was not allowed. Plain and simple. That didn’t mean that we faked our way through childhood pretending to like each other so we wouldn’t get in trouble, it meant that we weren’t allowed to hold grudges, say nasty things to each other, or put each other down. We had to learn to see the good in each other but not just see the good, but speak the good. On really bad days when we were constantly fighting, my mom would make us sit down and write 20 things we liked about the other person and most of the time we ended up writing more than 20 things (I told this story in my Hoarder post so sorry if you have to hear it twice). Then we would have to read them our list. By the end we would be rolling on the floor laughing because of the things they said.
Here is a list that my sister Lindee wrote that I have kept in my memory box for probably 12 or 13 years.
It wasn’t until I got to be around 17 or 18 that I started to truly see what a blessing my relationship with my sisters is and how rare it is. I didn’t fully appreciate it until I was able to look around and see how “normal” it is for siblings to hate each other and how parents justify it because, “They’re siblings, what do you expect?”, or, “They don’t get along because of the age difference.” It broke my heart because I realized not everyone has that special love and admiration for their siblings as I did. Don’t get me wrong, we definitely have had our rough patches and it’s taken all these years (especially once I moved out, not sure what that says) to get to the point where we don’t fight about the dumb things and feel more like friends than sisters. I realize every home situation is different and that not all parents parent the way mine did but my encouragement to you is don’t take your sibling for granted. It’s a special bond that is extremely hard to mimic or replace. I was also blessed with two INCREDIBLE sister-in-laws whom I adore. Even though they are 11 and 13 years older than me, it feels as if we grew up together.
I love my sisters, by blood and by marriage, with all my heart and I wrote this because I needed to tell someone how awesome they are. Seriously, they’re amazing.
There is just nothing like that sisterly bond.